1. Image is everything.
Like on Tinder, where you’re judged primarily by looks, real life is also image-driven. I mean image in both the literal and figurative senses.
Literal: don’t dress like you’re headed to a photo shoot for People of WalMart. When it counts, get out the dress shoes. Make sure you’re sharp. Wondering if your Ben & Jerry’s-stained sweatpants really matter if you’re just headed down the block to the grocery? Murphy’s Law of Grocery Shopping states that the nastier your get up is, the more people you know you’ll see!
But more importantly, figurative: Project the image you’re trying to achieve. If that means being confident, or more aggressive even, initiate the handshake, and make it good and firm. If that means being professional, have business cards on hand at all times, and a serviceable self-branded website. If that means being wild and fun, know all of the hot tubs that aren’t guarded late at night, and pack a toothbrush.
2. Lead with your trump cards.
Honesty is a great policy, but no one wants to see your dirty laundry—especially not on the first date or prospective client meeting. People aren’t looking to learn your every flaw, so rather than up-front apologizing for the skills you lack, focus on what you’re a baller at—your trump cards.
Play those first, and often.
3. Unique and strange is better than plain and normal.
In this AWESOME OKCUPID POST (which you should clearly bookmark since it’s in all-caps), the OkCupid Magical Mathematicians found that
the more divided people were about someone’s attractiveness, the more messages that person received overall!
And what were dividing traits? The weird stuff, like tattoos and piercings and blue hair, or owning a lifesize (on the outside) Tardis.
Don’t be afraid to let your uniqueness all hang out—if you feel it identifies you, don’t be afraid to show who you are because the only people you’ll frighten off should rightfully be frightened off. You’ll both be better for not wasting each other’s time.
4. Age is just a number. (and so is height!)
Whether it’s age or height, chances are the number is a little fudged. The truth is, you’re as young (or as tall) as you feel. I wouldn’t recommend knocking off 30 years or adding 10 inches, but don’t pre-judge someone else on a number that means nothing about their personality—or capability.
5. Guys have lower standards.
That doesn’t mean what you think it means.
Guys might have a reputation for having lower standards for “settling” but actually their lower standards are one of their greatest assets: The truth is, they have lower standards for what they feel they must have in order to take a shot. What do I mean?
Men apply for a job when they have 60% of the qualifications, but women only will when they have 100% of the qualifications.
As a guy, great! As a girl, this means you should especially remember the next point:
6. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
Wayne Gretzky would have done well on Tinder.
In your personal or professional life, you’re never going to get anywhere if you don’t show up for the challenge. Go out there, put yourself out there, and take (smart) risks! Otherwise, you’ll be watching Netflix with your cat while other people are out connecting.